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Unblocked & Untouchable
(A petty affirmation poem by the baddest bitch healing beautifully) I am so unblocked in every way —unblocked in my glow, my greatness,...
zariahperkins
Apr 7, 20251 min read


Umeka's Revelation
For so long, I thought love was about giving—pouring endlessly, proving my worth in devotion, bending until I lost my shape. I believed...
zariahperkins
Apr 5, 20251 min read


Letting Go: The Exhaustion of Holding On
There comes a point where longing turns into exhaustion. Where the hope you once had—the belief that maybe, just maybe, this person will...
zariahperkins
Mar 16, 20252 min read


Are You the Partner You’re Looking For?
We all have a vision of the ideal partner—the kind of person, man or woman who would make life richer, deeper, and more fulfilling. But...
zariahperkins
Mar 11, 20252 min read


Losing to Find
Matthew 10:39 has been sitting heavy on my spirit today. Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for my sake...
zariahperkins
Mar 7, 20252 min read
Bad Bitches Have Bad Days Too
I’ve been feeling overwhelmed. That kind of soul-deep exhaustion where you realize some things just don’t matter the way you thought they...
zariahperkins
Mar 6, 20252 min read


In the Waiting, I Bloom
Right now, I feel like I’m running out of time. My mother is gone. My father is 63. I am unmarried, no prospects, no children. And yet,...
zariahperkins
Mar 6, 20252 min read


The Path of a Generational Curse Breaker
Most demons don’t come from the outside world. They start at home. Passed down like an unwanted heirloom. They’re planted in the way a...
zariahperkins
Mar 5, 20253 min read


Clarity Is Power: Owning Your Intentions in Love & Life
We live in a world that thrives on blurred lines. Situationships, mixed signals, “let’s just see where this goes.” But what if we flipped...
zariahperkins
Mar 3, 20252 min read


Love, Loss, and Letting Go
You arrived like a whisper, soft yet strong, A presence I never knew I needed for long. In your arms, I found something rare, A love...
zariahperkins
Mar 2, 20251 min read


I Am Not Your Assumptions
There’s a certain way society expects me to be. People look at me and, without asking, quickly decide who I am. They assign me a label...
zariahperkins
Feb 25, 20253 min read


A Love That Changed Me
Love has a way of revealing things to us—about ourselves, about what we deserve, about what we need to heal. Our time together was brief,...
zariahperkins
Feb 22, 20252 min read


Love, But Not Like That
I’ve given up on love. I’ve given up on trust. Unbearing my body and soul— how silly, how embarrassing. Never enough, but somehow too...
zariahperkins
Feb 19, 20251 min read


How to Love
Love is an action. A choice. A commitment. It’s not just a feeling that comes and goes depending on the day. It’s something we must...
zariahperkins
Feb 17, 20253 min read


The Alchemist’s Mirror
Projecting your insecurities onto me, How misplaced, how silly of thee. You are what you say I am, Speaking recklessly, your light grows...
zariahperkins
Feb 15, 20251 min read


Soul Tie vs. Soulmate: When Love Feels Like Fate but One Will Ruin You
There’s a thin line between a soul tie and a soulmate—so thin, in fact, that you might not even realize which one you’re in until it’s...
zariahperkins
Feb 12, 20253 min read


Another Piece of the Trauma: The Day My Mom Died
The day my mom passed away was the day my life changed forever. It was Saturday, May 11, 2024—the day before Mother’s Day. That was the...
zariahperkins
Feb 9, 20253 min read


The Creative Intellectual: A Mind in Motion, A Heart in Bloom
There’s a duality within me that I’ve come to embrace, but not without resistance. I am both a creative and an intellectual—a mind that...
zariahperkins
Feb 6, 20252 min read


Love, Light, and Logic
I have always been someone who feels deeply. Love, in all its forms, has never been something I give in halves—I pour, I care, I nurture....
zariahperkins
Feb 5, 20252 min read


The Magic of Black Women
There’s something sacred about being a Black woman. It’s a magic you can’t quite define, but you feel it deeply. It radiates in every...
zariahperkins
Feb 2, 20252 min read
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