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Healing Through Mindfulness and Words
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I Am Not Your Assumptions
There’s a certain way society expects me to be. People look at me and, without asking, quickly decide who I am. They assign me a label...
zariahperkins
Feb 25, 20253 min read


A Love That Changed Me
Love has a way of revealing things to us—about ourselves, about what we deserve, about what we need to heal. Our time together was brief,...
zariahperkins
Feb 22, 20252 min read


Love, But Not Like That
I’ve given up on love. I’ve given up on trust. Unbearing my body and soul— how silly, how embarrassing. Never enough, but somehow too...
zariahperkins
Feb 19, 20251 min read


How to Love
Love is an action. A choice. A commitment. It’s not just a feeling that comes and goes depending on the day. It’s something we must...
zariahperkins
Feb 17, 20253 min read


The Alchemist’s Mirror
Projecting your insecurities onto me, How misplaced, how silly of thee. You are what you say I am, Speaking recklessly, your light grows...
zariahperkins
Feb 15, 20251 min read


Soul Tie vs. Soulmate: When Love Feels Like Fate but One Will Ruin You
There’s a thin line between a soul tie and a soulmate—so thin, in fact, that you might not even realize which one you’re in until it’s...
zariahperkins
Feb 12, 20253 min read


Another Piece of the Trauma: The Day My Mom Died
The day my mom passed away was the day my life changed forever. It was Saturday, May 11, 2024—the day before Mother’s Day. That was the...
zariahperkins
Feb 9, 20253 min read


The Creative Intellectual: A Mind in Motion, A Heart in Bloom
There’s a duality within me that I’ve come to embrace, but not without resistance. I am both a creative and an intellectual—a mind that...
zariahperkins
Feb 6, 20252 min read


Love, Light, and Logic
I have always been someone who feels deeply. Love, in all its forms, has never been something I give in halves—I pour, I care, I nurture....
zariahperkins
Feb 5, 20252 min read


The Magic of Black Women
There’s something sacred about being a Black woman. It’s a magic you can’t quite define, but you feel it deeply. It radiates in every...
zariahperkins
Feb 2, 20252 min read


The Demon in My Bed
I look into your eyes and see the darkness that’s consumed you I wonder sometimes if I ever even knew you A sober moment, a fleeting...
zariahperkins
Jan 31, 20251 min read


To My Dad, on Your 63rd Birthday
Hey Old Man, As I sit here reflecting on the love we share, I can’t help but think of how much we’ve grown together. Our relationship has...
zariahperkins
Jan 30, 20252 min read


My First Love
I would like to experience a love without pain What is a love without pain? A love so good I’m no longer feeling insane A love for my...
zariahperkins
Jan 29, 20251 min read


A Soul at Peace
My mind is racing My feet are pacing I don’t have much peace in me Stuck between the present and what used to be A time when hope felt...
zariahperkins
Jan 27, 20251 min read


A Piece of the Trauma
A year ago today, I saw my life flash before my eyes. I almost died. What’s worse is that I had no control—only God had the final say. It...
zariahperkins
Jan 25, 20252 min read


Why Wounded Men Try to Conquer “Bad Bitches” Instead of Healing
Let’s talk about a pattern I’ve observed—one that I’m sure many of you have experienced firsthand or watched unfold in the lives of...
zariahperkins
Jan 23, 20253 min read


5 Ways to Stay Grounded During Spiritual Growth
1. Prioritize Stillness and Reflection: Moments of quiet are where God speaks most clearly. Whether through prayer, meditation, or...
zariahperkins
Jan 21, 20251 min read


Overflowing Grace
My cup runs over, My glass is all the way full. I appreciate what I have And what’s to come so soon. Thank You for the lessons, The love,...
zariahperkins
Jan 19, 20251 min read


Choose Your Listeners Wisely
In our journey of life and growth, we all need a safe space—a trusted friend, a comforting presence—to vent, share, or seek advice. But...
zariahperkins
Jan 17, 20252 min read


Chocolate Chip Dimensions
I miss the touch of you, The taste of you, The warmth of your embrace, How passion flowed between us, Pure and true. Steamy moments,...
zariahperkins
Jan 15, 20251 min read
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